Couples Counseling.
Live the Life You’ve Always Dreamed Of. Together.
Greensboro and Winston-Salem North Carolina.
Understand Your Own Feelings and Needs
Accept Yourself, Accept Your Partner
Improve Communication
Things are not going well in your relationship, and, if you’re honest, they’ve been off for a very long time.
You feel constantly criticized and nagged. You often push down your own feelings in order to keep the peace, but eventually it gets to be too much and you either explode in anger, or shut down completely.
You’ve had, or thought about having, an affair…anything to feel a moment of connection and appreciation from someone, instead of feeling trapped and alone like you feel now.
Still, deep down, you know you love your partner. You want to change, but you just don’t know where to start.
Change is possible. Therapy can help.
Travis Jeffords - LCMHCA, NCC, Mdiv
Hi, I’m Travis.
I hate seeing couples suffering, and I’m here to help.
My clients describe me as calm, compassionate, and curious…
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Calm, connected, and compassionate may be the last words you would use to describe yourself in your relationship. Most of the time people think these qualities are unique to therapists like myself, but here’s what I know:
You and your partner have these qualities inside you at your core too. You just need a little help uncovering them.
If you’re struggling in your relationship, we can help you re-connect with who you really are: connected, compassionate, curious, clear, calm, and confident about the relationship.
How I Help Clients With Relationships:
Here’s a truth of relationships: we’re not able to hear the experience and pain of our partner, until we ourselves feel seen and validated.
Most couples spend years frustrated that their partner does not understand them. Each member of the couple wants their partner to be the one that makes the shift towards hearing their partner first. The result, unfortunately, is that no one hears or understands anyone.
This is where I come in. A therapist acts as a neutral third party in order to help each partner feel seen and heard in front of their partner - something which may not have happened in years. Eventually, each member of the couple feels validated enough to begin to make the shift to hearing and understanding the needs of their partners, and working on their own issues in the relationship instead of blaming their partner for everything that went wrong.
A Coach, not a Referee
Many couples are hesitant about couples counseling because they think the counselor will take on the role of referee. They envision the counselor sitting back and picking a winner and loser in an argument, or in the relationship.
That’s not how I work.
My fundamental belief is that all communication is just two people trying to get their needs met the best way they know how.
When we can all hear and understand what your core feelings and needs are deep down - then the two of you can both work together to heal your own needs individually, and to support one another as a couple in this process.
Couples counseling is not one person verses the other…it’s about all three of us teaming up together to create a situation in the both of you win.
How to Get Started…
A Brief Consultation
Get your questions answered so you’ll feel confident getting started with your first session. A free 20 minute video call at your convenience.
Have Your First Session
Share about what is bringing you to therapy and the change you are hoping to see. Create goals together and discuss a plan to work towards those goals.
Change Begins
Begin meeting together on a regular basis (usually weekly or biweekly) for 50-55 minute sessions. There’s no contract or obligation, and you’re free to stop at anytime. Together, we will help you heal from the past dramas and traumas that you’ve been carrying around for years, and help you re-connect with your inner calm.
